In 1973, when Billy Jean King beat Bobby Riggs, I was an
overexcited nine year old, more thrilled by the phrases “male chauvinist pig”
and “battle of the sexes” than by the symbolism of the match. Nevertheless, the
match imprinted on my brain as part of the general consciousness-raising that
was going on in 1970s U.S. culture. Billy Jean King and Free To Be You and Me represented Women’s Lib to me. Forty years
later, it turns out Billy Jean King (BJK) is an excellent example for me – for
us – once again, this time of success redefined as extending beyond money and
power.
She’s been in the news again lately, because it’s the
fortieth anniversary of that famous tennis match, as well as of the founding of
what became the Women’s Tennis Association, and of equal prize money awards for
men and women at the U.S. Open, all things in which BJK was instrumental. She’s
been interviewed in print, on radio, and on film, and her life story reads like
a primer on success. So let’s look at what she can teach us.
First, there’s BJK the player of tennis. For starters, she
won twenty Wimbledon trophies in singles and doubles, so that’s pretty great. In
talking about how she prepared for a match, she said she used a lot of visualization. She would visualize all
the things that could go wrong, and then she would visualize how she would
handle them. She would think about all the elements that were out of her
control, and then visualize how she would handle those.
During play, she would set
practical, specific goals like returning a serve into a specific part of
the court. She would picture where she wanted the ball to go as she hit it. Aside
from her visualization, she focused on her side of the net, not on her
opponent, on standing up tall, and on letting go of mistakes. She focused on the present. Key, she said,
was to forget about the past and the future, and to focus only on what was
happening in that moment. Voilá, much money and power eventually
arrived.
Then there’s BJK off the court. This is where the story gets
interesting. While she loved the game, and was a fierce competitor, she saw
tennis as a platform. It was not the only thing that mattered to her. In fact,
part of why tennis success mattered to her was that it provided her a way to
promote the cause she most believed in: equality. She said, “I knew as a youngster I wanted to
be No. 1 in tennis. I knew by 12 my platform would be tennis, but my real life
was going to be wrapped around equality and social justice. I felt like I had a
tremendous sense of destiny.” (http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/tennis/2013/09/10/billie-jean-king-40th-anniversary-battle-of-the-sexes-bobby-riggs/2792861/)
Towards those ideals, BJK organized the first women’s tennis league,
lobbied for sponsors, and worked hard to establish equal prize money for men
and women and equal treatment on tennis tours.
Regarding that infamous match with Bobby Riggs, BJK says she never
intended to play him, but then he played another top female player, Margaret
Cort, and beat her. After that, BJK felt that she had to play him and she had
to win. Why? Because she was working so hard to bring respect to the Women’s
Tennis Association, which she helped found, and because Title IX had just
passed, and she thought the cause of women’s lib and equality would be hurt if
she didn’t. So this is significant because it shows her life’s work was in alignment with deep personal values
linked to improving the world.
How did she accomplish so much? Did she arrive fully formed on a clam
shell? Was she just a fluke, a tennis genius, a born leader? Certainly genetics
came into play. But also, she had help. First, from parents who encouraged her
athleticism. Later, when she became a leader among tennis players, her husband
encouraged her to set up the women’s league. The common trope of success is
“pulling yourself up by your bootstraps,” but this trope is a myth. Look behind
– or beside – anyone with sustained, meaningful success and you will find that champions have champions urging them on.
Billy Jean King is a great role model for a sustainable,
holistic definition of success that includes more than money and power. She
pursued greatness on the court in service of her ideals, not just to win. Once
she retired from professional play, she channeled her passion into a new, but
related path, behind the scenes. She started co-ed World Team Tennis “the day
she retired.” Professional team members include Venus Williams and Andy
Roddick. It’s a place for amateurs and professionals to train, and BJK believes
that having participants and spectators – families – children – experience men
and women playing together teaches a broader lesson about equality.
Does she have power and money? Yes, you bet. But if power
and money were the only important metrics to her, she could have quit long ago.
Instead, she risked it all when she was outed as a lesbian in the early 1980s,
and decided to open up about it. The result was that she lost all of her
sponsorships. However, she continued to work towards her goals, recouped her money,
and created a legacy as a fighter for social justice.
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